Dani Defines

"I just had the brightest relief I never felt before. They made me feel I deserve to have a clearer perception of the real world."  Rushing last Friday to have an urgent eye check-up, I decided to go straight to EDSA Shangri-La Mall which is just a walking distance from my office and while on my way, I am also in a rush to make up my mind in choosing between replacing my 2-month old contact lenses or just grab and find a new granny-look yet classy eyeglasses.  I've been wearing my 250-grade contact lenses since October of this year and I was confident enough that it will last for more months as it is even labeled for a 1-year quality and durability assurance from where I purchased it. It was my 2nd pair of contact lenses and because of a quite good experience with the brand; I gave it another shot and replaced my 1st pair to them.  But surprisingly, I noticed the other day when I got home that the right piece of my contact lenses is nearing to its unfortunat...

Dedication can never be seen from someone who never sees their purpose at something. You are placed to a certain designation because you heartily agreed with the terms and conditions. You agreed because you put trust from its striking perks and opportunities and eventually programming yourself to put commitment to it. Not until you are so into the situation and finding out the real picture of an established structure. Where do you see yourself five years from now? What can you contribute to the company? What's in it for us to hire you? And the list of questions goes on to you like a blast then you see your thoughts wafting around your head trying to come up with a perfect construction of words to sell yourself perfectly. You are trying to make a good impression as of the moment and right there and then you are also expecting something great or something better in return perhaps. We are always searching for a win-win situation wherever we may be. I might confid...

Have you ever crossed that line where you felt stuck at something you can’t even fathom? Have you ever been to a certain situation where you had to create urgent choices and bad decisions to surpass that burden that surprised you? Everyone deserves real happiness but for me I define it into two courses and each one of us choose the other way around every day. First is the kind of happiness where you wanted to become fully unaware about nothing else but yourself alone. The other one is the kind of happiness where you found it with someone else... the kind where you depend on it with some other people. It’s not really about getting attached too much but it’s how we carry ourselves to manage different emotions. Every realization has its different form and realizations murder people’s decision from time to time. You may have realized that last year you settled to a decision that’s totally different to the one you’re currently making. We are moved and affected by people, by things, by...

I  fearlessly tried moving forward with every piece of my brokenness to never get stuck in ambiguity again. I wasn’t looking for anyone to help me… but then you came. Right when I was in rage about love just a week before I met this guy, a twist of fate perhaps paved its way to lead us to something that took us for quite a long time to define. I used to refuse any invitations that might lead to any kind of romantic attachments after what I have gone through. I used to want someone so bad and forgot to save rooms for my own benefit. I used to believe to fantasies I only created in my own world. Until then, we can really never find conclusion till we go outside of our comfort zones and take risks. A little rewind. About a year ago, I had a serious relationship but things didn’t turn out the way we thought it supposed to be and too much chaos led me and my ex to end the relationship. I had a quest for what my heart truly longed for that I even chased a man I thought was enoug...

Too much sensitivity might ruin your performance . Dealing with stress in your job is inevitable every day. From the moment you start your day browsing and responding to emails, attending an unexpected meeting in the midst of a bunch of urgent tasks you need to accomplish, up until the last hour of your shift yet you still need to report to your boss to provide an update for the day… all these office routine weighs to you and usually ended as stressors more than a daily reminder that you need to keep going. Have I missed any office routine? Of course, accompanied by any circumstances in the workplace, we can never deflect our dealings with our workmates. It may be a professional or an emotional approach, eventually you will be needing some of these helpful reminders how not to draw into any occasion that might lead to internal conflicts or worst, dissension. 1) When under pressure and your officemates bug you to go on a 15-minute break- Go ahead! Believe me, you still have ...

When you think winning a friend could be that easy as sharing a seat with a complete stranger, or can be bought from somewhere then we could go on believing that we will never feel incomplete, lonely, or weary with the idea that we can find it anywhere and anytime we need it. We could easily appreciate every people we meet and eventually accepting some to become part of our lives for the sake of companionship. I was defining friendship at its simplest form, a mediocre kind of relationship but not until I came up with an astounding realization from this kind of bond I found from my College friends. I had this thought since I was in high school that the kind of friendship everyone deserves to have is the kind where one must never feel down and that kind of having a person who will always be by your side literally or figuratively whenever someone tries to go against you. Every person I meet, I try to adjust with how they treat me. I try to be one of whoever I am with believing the...

Watch out for these signs before you know you’re just a rebound Let’s picture a usual scenario. You’re in a sudden situation where you met this charming guy from a local bar and started a good conversation with him. You had that spark from the way he looked at you and how his every word moved you. You’re getting out of control but the other side of your thoughts believe this could only be a start of somewhat a new kind of dating stage. Thinking if it’s a love at first sight? Well at this point, you must first take a braver step out of those sudden gush of emotions. How well do you already know this guy? Is he from the same town? Does anyone from your circle of friends know him? Take advantage of that getting-to-know stage and dig as much information from him. Take time, slow it down, and take these signals to know if he’s serious or he’s just deceiving you for his own benefit. • He always talks about his ex (regardless of how he tells a story about her) When he does th...

Some were asking what am I up to lately.  I paused. Eventually I came up with a realization. I thought having a fast paced life will lead you easily to your destination. But then, I suddenly needed to stop for a while. To pause literally in life. To reflect with all the beautiful experiences and downsides of it. To have an introspection and analyze what to prioritize at this point. To empathize and summarize every personality I met. Life has a series of pulls back and forth indeed. I may have been trapped with a goal and frustrated with every pinch of destiny. Time is really a precious thing. No treasure could ever equate its value. I express to not let my emotions suppress. Seems I spent a lot of energy making others impressed. The last time I checked the world I have been, still I had that rush of excitement from its striking opportunities. But then again, I thirst for clarity. We need a point in our life when to scrutinize with every decision...

Strange souls.  Broken hearts. A sudden haven. This is seemingly an escape plan. Emotions were vast. Haunted by the past. Everything happened so fast. This seems a precious melancholy. None of these were planned Even when you placed your hand. We can stay. One more hour or a couple. Or until we're whole  Again. Written By: Hannah Dani

Indeed, free cheese comes in traps. Captured? Keep on exploring places your heart yearns for. Drained? You don't keep letting fools assassinate your character. Your principles are more than a million worth of value than any fancy stuff. Are you smiling genuinely? When was the last time you asked this to yourself? You are not weak. When was the last time you reminded yourself about this? You are strong. Aren't you convinced yet? Written By: Hannah Dani

Sunsets that we missed in the past. Separated by time and chances. Every little thing in disarray. Pause. Rectify. Breathe. This is now the time. You're with me. Hold my hand. Let's runaway. Written By: Hannah Dani

Throwing thoughts back to past and had a sudden reflection with the constant changes in the last decade of my life. I always aim to be a better person every year but at the same time I am too vulnerable in dealing with everyday's dose of ups and downs. Now I gained another year older enough to make myself believe that becoming 26 is the age you literally must overcome the "quarter-life crisis" and that I am closer to my childhood dreams. So long being with unnecessary emotions. Back off odds, I am everyday motivated. Let me embrace you; maturity. Written By: Hannah Dani

We're aware of our flaws. We don't need emphasis on facts based from anyone else's lavish perspective. You seem to know it all. Every detail of our craft and stuff. I feel ashamed of your existence. You're too far. Far away from reality. The next time you utter a single word, please remember this. You are nothing in between perfection and a flawed soul effortlessly fitting in a world of repugnance. Written By: Hannah Dani

I might apply the phrase: "Re-aligning your life back to its normal state" better than the mediocre: "Hey you have to move on, you'll find someone better". It is such a novelty these days that when we heard of someone "broken", or whatever it may cost the person concern, people instinctively throw pieces of advice saying you should not worry, sooner or later, you'll find completeness and will never feel lonely again. I hate to admit it but nowadays, definition of being "whole" has fallen in complete disarray and what confuses me are these people who shared random experiences and approaches this ramblingly. Maybe it's essential that we get to a point sometime in our lives to become sober from emotionally romantic attachments. It may be a choice given to us or our decision to make but whatever that is, unexpected circumstances are inevitable. None of us can escape a sudden change of heart. Bottom line, or realization rather, ...