Signs you’re dating someone still not over with his ex
Watch out for these signs before you know you’re just a rebound
Let’s picture a usual scenario.
You’re in a sudden situation where you met this charming guy from a local bar and started a good conversation with him. You had that spark from the way he looked at you and how his every word moved you. You’re getting out of control but the other side of your thoughts believe this could only be a start of somewhat a new kind of dating stage.
Thinking if it’s a love at first sight? Well at this point, you must first take a braver step out of those sudden gush of emotions. How well do you already know this guy? Is he from the same town? Does anyone from your circle of friends know him? Take advantage of that getting-to-know stage and dig as much information from him. Take time, slow it down, and take these signals to know if he’s serious or he’s just deceiving you for his own benefit.
• He always talks about his ex (regardless of how he tells a story about her)
When he does this frequently, obviously he’s totally still in denial and in rage about his recent heartbreak. Regardless of the reason of their break-up or the length of their relationship, but still he oftenly puts in between your conversations any topic and expounds his memories of his ex-girl, you should start cutting him off by asking what does he really plans to the bond that you have. Is the connection you are both dealing right now is just for playtime or a foundation that may lead soon in real time?
• You found out he just recently got out from a long-term relationship
How could we really term it if it’s a long-term relationship? I guess a 1-year relationship could be the minimum length. I remember Fitzgerald’s famous quote, “There are different kinds of love in the world but never the same love twice.” He may be experiencing a heartache right now but we’ll never know if this was his first time. So before immediately walking out from the dating scene, ask him about the impact of his recent break-up to him and how is he willing to move on. From there, you can measure your confusions with his intentions to you.
• He only calls you when he’s lonely (or only when he feels to perhaps)
Well, this can be a case-to-case basis. We can never judge him if he’s that type of a career-oriented guy whose shift on weekdays is really hectic but still finds time to take you out on a date on weekends. Maybe, we can question a guy whose availability is really not that tight on weekdays or in any day but leaves you hanging with a lot of “maybe-he’s-not-just-that-into-you” thoughts. Well, in this case or in this situation, we can rephrase that into, “maybe-he’s-still-into-his-ex”.
• He’s not ready to commit yet
This kind of excuse from anyone could be very general. We could put in a lot of assumptions but at the end, we usually end up thinking maybe he’s still into his ex and he’s confused whether he still has to wait and hope she’ll changes her mind and comes back to him. Upon confirming he’s still hurting and struggling with his recent break-up, better take the courage to have that space and time between the two of you. Don’t bother thinking who’ll lose the game. Either of both sides’ situation, the timing isn’t right enough for now. If you both see each other having a great connection, you must learn to respect the healing stage first. If he’s really into you and he wants you to become part of his life, he’ll still be there in the perfect time and situation. But if not, he’s not the right person for you.
• He’s seeing another while you’re in the scene
This could be the greatest sign that will make you stop seeing that guy. First of all, fidelity issues may arise every now and then so the moment you realized you’re not the only girl he’s dating, please let go of this kind of relationship. None of us are desperate enough to be with that guy whose soul is troubled and confused and takes all the advantages to every girl he meets just to cover-up his mess. Save yourself and always remember someone better who has good intentions to you will come along.
There could be a lot of statistical probabilities in love at first sight and we could get struck by the idea that spontaneous connections are rare because these are made up of two in a million people with the same wavelength who only met by chances in a specific time and situation. We get that thrilling yet exciting feeling of meeting someone new and we suddenly go beyond our limitations. With that chance the two of you have already taken, you must also have to take a lot of considerations before going on full-dating before one of you gets fooled.
Seriously, you’ll only freak out the moment you realize you’re investing time and effort from an uncertain relationship with the unnecessary person.
Written By: Hannah Dani
Let’s picture a usual scenario.
You’re in a sudden situation where you met this charming guy from a local bar and started a good conversation with him. You had that spark from the way he looked at you and how his every word moved you. You’re getting out of control but the other side of your thoughts believe this could only be a start of somewhat a new kind of dating stage.
Thinking if it’s a love at first sight? Well at this point, you must first take a braver step out of those sudden gush of emotions. How well do you already know this guy? Is he from the same town? Does anyone from your circle of friends know him? Take advantage of that getting-to-know stage and dig as much information from him. Take time, slow it down, and take these signals to know if he’s serious or he’s just deceiving you for his own benefit.
• He always talks about his ex (regardless of how he tells a story about her)
When he does this frequently, obviously he’s totally still in denial and in rage about his recent heartbreak. Regardless of the reason of their break-up or the length of their relationship, but still he oftenly puts in between your conversations any topic and expounds his memories of his ex-girl, you should start cutting him off by asking what does he really plans to the bond that you have. Is the connection you are both dealing right now is just for playtime or a foundation that may lead soon in real time?
• You found out he just recently got out from a long-term relationship
How could we really term it if it’s a long-term relationship? I guess a 1-year relationship could be the minimum length. I remember Fitzgerald’s famous quote, “There are different kinds of love in the world but never the same love twice.” He may be experiencing a heartache right now but we’ll never know if this was his first time. So before immediately walking out from the dating scene, ask him about the impact of his recent break-up to him and how is he willing to move on. From there, you can measure your confusions with his intentions to you.
• He only calls you when he’s lonely (or only when he feels to perhaps)
Well, this can be a case-to-case basis. We can never judge him if he’s that type of a career-oriented guy whose shift on weekdays is really hectic but still finds time to take you out on a date on weekends. Maybe, we can question a guy whose availability is really not that tight on weekdays or in any day but leaves you hanging with a lot of “maybe-he’s-not-just-that-into-you” thoughts. Well, in this case or in this situation, we can rephrase that into, “maybe-he’s-still-into-his-ex”.
• He’s not ready to commit yet
This kind of excuse from anyone could be very general. We could put in a lot of assumptions but at the end, we usually end up thinking maybe he’s still into his ex and he’s confused whether he still has to wait and hope she’ll changes her mind and comes back to him. Upon confirming he’s still hurting and struggling with his recent break-up, better take the courage to have that space and time between the two of you. Don’t bother thinking who’ll lose the game. Either of both sides’ situation, the timing isn’t right enough for now. If you both see each other having a great connection, you must learn to respect the healing stage first. If he’s really into you and he wants you to become part of his life, he’ll still be there in the perfect time and situation. But if not, he’s not the right person for you.
• He’s seeing another while you’re in the scene
This could be the greatest sign that will make you stop seeing that guy. First of all, fidelity issues may arise every now and then so the moment you realized you’re not the only girl he’s dating, please let go of this kind of relationship. None of us are desperate enough to be with that guy whose soul is troubled and confused and takes all the advantages to every girl he meets just to cover-up his mess. Save yourself and always remember someone better who has good intentions to you will come along.
There could be a lot of statistical probabilities in love at first sight and we could get struck by the idea that spontaneous connections are rare because these are made up of two in a million people with the same wavelength who only met by chances in a specific time and situation. We get that thrilling yet exciting feeling of meeting someone new and we suddenly go beyond our limitations. With that chance the two of you have already taken, you must also have to take a lot of considerations before going on full-dating before one of you gets fooled.
Seriously, you’ll only freak out the moment you realize you’re investing time and effort from an uncertain relationship with the unnecessary person.
Written By: Hannah Dani
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