What defines you now?

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You have been through quite a lot, your old self knows that well.

It has been a long time swearing and regretting what you could have been if only you knew back then what you have learned and realized in your present.

Now you look at the mirror, scrutinizing every single change from your external appearance unsure of gaining a bit of weight, having that pair of icky eyes from those shaming eye bugs or maybe you became a little more physically alluring but just can’t figure it out yet.

Intellectually, you know you are smarter now but you still over think of social acceptance bothering your mind of thoughts you never needed anyway. You care too much to people you believe will never harm you. You define your worth outside your own world without realizing you are the one controlling it.

What defines you?

People can say whatever they want to say. Mirror can show you what you need to see.

But most importantly, it’s how you make a difference that leads you to the definition you want to know about yourself.

What makes a difference?

You no longer rethink about your distressing behaviors for you already started to maturely adjust away from your old self also pulling away every flaw from your personality.

You don’t argue with petty issues, you don’t trigger conflicts with anyone who’s against your ideas, and you now understand concisely every situation on your own most of the time.

The present you will never be again dragged by your past mistakes and will not be overwhelmed by your ambitious future self remember that.

You are yourself right now, just so in time without limits so focus with all the possibilities what today can offer you.

Learning to embrace the joy in the ordinary will keep you away from uncertainty. Sometimes, you only give reasons to everything for you to make yourself believe that everything happens for a reason.

How you simultaneously manage and balance every aspect in your life is what defines you. You give your best shot not to attain the greatest issues you already buried from your past.


What devours your mind, consumes your time, and what your heart longs for are the things that define you deep within; but how you conclude and communicate your thoughts, how you manage your time, and how you express the longings of your heart are the things you give other people to define who you are. 


Written By: Hannah Dani

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